| Working with and working things out with Your slave |
slaves can be quite complex people. Think about it, all slaves begin unowned. If You happen to acquire a slave that You are its first Master then know that you will have more
work in store for you than a slave who may have been owned before. Being owned before is no guarantee that the slave will come to You all nicely trained to Your specifications.
In fact the pre-owned slave may come with some bad habits that were trained into it before You got it and so a Master is faced with undoing the damage that was already done.
So now You have this new slave. Where do you begin? I discovered from My own experiences that You cannot always count on Your own intuition. You may percieve one thing about Your
new slave that is totally off the mark and You end up encountering difficulties. I have found outthe hard way that this is true. I have learned that the first step You need to
take with Your new slave is to set out some parameteres of time. While it is very difficult in this day-and-age to set up a time-frame for training a slave for financial reasons
it is the most important thing You as a Master can do.
many masters and slaves are faced with the problem of what to do about the slave's job and finances in order to arrange things for the slave to live with the Master while it is
being trained and it is not always possible to have the slave present with the Master all the time. So, for the purposes of this article, let's say that the slave has come to
live with the Master and the slaves finances etc., have been integrated. In the beginning, when You have this new slave, the very first thing You as a Master need to do is to
review with the slave what his character and personality are.
A true slave is a rare beast...very rare. The simplest way that I can describe the point of this article is to use My own real-life example. I acquired a slave that most Master's
only dream about. I will not go into the details of why I think this, but just suffice-it-to-say that I know the difference between a real slave, a good one and an exceptional one.
So I get this slave that has a very deep sense of right and wrong not only about life in general but about what it feels comfortable with and what it does not. In many respects
this slave has a deep sense of intuition like an animal does. Animals live by intuition. The know when something is wrong. If you have ever owned a dog and watched its behavior
when something in your house is wrong and everyone is upset the dog will respond by sort of moping around or even have a sad look in its eyes. That is the way this slave is.
A Very Important Word of Caution to Masters
Life can be very tough sometimes, especially when You are the one responsible for taking care of your slave. If you have a family, a partner or more than one slave, sometimes the
financial burden becomes quite heavy, especially if your slave is a non-working slave. Do not allow the weight of your financial burdens change who you are, especially
where your slave is concerned. A slave, like an animal, may not know the details of your financial burdens but it will feel it. A true slave's focus is on his Master
and his Master's happiness. Sure they wrestle with their own egos, but the slave depends on his Master to feel safe and happy. Of course this is far easier said than done. Believe
Me I know. As a Master you have to be able to keep things in perspective and not forget that your slave depends on you for safety, security and their happiness. If you allow your
burdens to color your attitude toward life your slave will suffer right along with you, but perhaps moreso becuase the slave, above all else wants to make his Master happy. If the
slave constantly sees you as unhappy or worried or burdened, even if it does not know why, the slave will try and take on the Master's burden to the point that it may even feel
guilty that it is something that the slave has done.
In The Beginning
In My case I own this slave who is quite sharp. While it is fairly smart it sometimes is its own worst enemy, but who isn't? One of the things that I failed to realize about this slave
is that it does not need the same kudos that other slaves I have had required. Meaning; that this slave needs to not be praised or even considered to have need of praise becuase
its satisfaction comes from knowing the Master is happy. Literally, it is like a dog. You could work a dog hard, but give it a treat or pet it and scratch its back and it needs no
more than to know you are happy. A lot of slaves will agree with this statement. One of the things you as a Master need to realize is that even though a slave may have a very focused
idea of its slavery, it is still human and it will falter at times. It will get confused by your actions, so you need to be consistent and remember, this slave is not your boyfriend or
partner unless you start out that way and the slave is well aware of what You want.
Learn, learn, learn! Talk to your new slave, right up front, not about stupid stuff that people get caught up with in conventional relationships. But, more
than talking to your slave, LISTEN. Listen to your slave and not just the words that it uses but listen to how the slave uses them. Remember, the slave, while human
is not your typical person. In My own case My slave has a better than average view of itself. Get to know the specifics of what the slave's personality is not what it wants becuase it
wants its Master to be happy with its service to Him. If it is a true slave it does not have "wants" or "desires" as much as it wants to feel that it is fulfilling its purpose. A true
slave already knows what it is, it just wants to feel useful. In My case the slave needs to exist in its world detached from its own feelings; it does not want to be considered as an
individual with its own wants and desires, it wants to experience the detachment of being a tool of the Master, a thing. For some Master's this is a difficult thing to do and an even
more difficult thing to practice. I am not talking about the occassional sex-scene, I am talking about every single day.
The Time Factor
If you are like Me, most Masters are busy men. However, you must make time for some very important things. Probably THE most important thing is that you make time to create and enforce
your protocols. Every Master has some protocols that they dictate to thier slaves. Number one: Make your protocols sensible. Number two: Make your protocols attainable. Number three: Enforce
your protocols. A slave relies on your discipline and enforcement of your protocols to know what you want and dont want. If you allow your busy schedule to interfere with your protocols
your slave will suffer and you will suffer an unhappy slave in the end. If your slave sees that you don't have the time for enforcing your protocols then it will think that they must
not be that important. Also, your slave will lose confidence in you if you do not make the time to show your slave that your protocols are important to you. Don't make the mistake of
informing your slave of your protocols only when they are not met and make you angry. This will only confuse the slave and make him feel sad. Remember, it does not make any difference
what you have a slave do, it just wants its Master to be happy, that is its paycheck, its reward!
How Enforced Protocols Help You and Your slave
So you tell your slave what you expect, maybe you are not so clear about what your protocls are. First of all do you even know what a slave protocol is? In the military, a salute is a
protocol. They are rules that dictate the way one should behave. So as a Master your protocols will dictate how a slave is to behave in any given situation. Like military protocols, a
Master's protocols can get out of control and burdensome not only for the slave but for the Master. You must decide what you expect of your slave and be clear about what your particular
protocols are. Not only this, but just as important is that as a Master you pay attention to your own protocols to make sure the slave is meeting them and if the slave is not meeting
your protocls then you must be prepared to enforce them. If you enforce a particular protocol one time and then not another and let is slide the slave will think that the protocol is
not very important and it will continue to slide and will only become confused when you decide to enforce a particular protocol that you did not enforce the last time the slave slipped.
I cannot emphasize just how importnat this is. This is the way you will train your slave to do as you ask. Letting a slvave protocol slide one time and then not another time will cause
you more grief than you know. Be alert and pay attention to your own protocols. Equally important is that you need to HAVE protocols. Even if you think you do not need
to tell your slave that a certain thing is a protocol becuase it should be obvious to the slave is a mistake. I don't care how simple the protocol is, tell your slave it is a protocol. A
slave cannot read your mind and to assume that a slave already knows certain things is a mistake. Never make the mistake, as I have done, is to assume that your slave already knows
certain things to do.
Below is a simple list of My own protocols:
If you are like Me (god forbid), you are active and do many things ofr yourself. Especially if you have never had a slave before or if it has been some time since you have had a slave. USE YOUR slave! I cannot stress this enough. Be VERY aware of the things your slave is offering you. If you don't pay attention you will not see or recognize the things the slave is offerring. Remember, it wants to give. Some slaves have a dog-like personality (especially if it is a pup-slave), meaning a dog will be right there waiting for you to give it something to do. A slave is like that, it wants to be helpful, it wants to be used, it wants to work for his Master. More than "want" a slave needs to work for his Master's enjoyment and be pleasing to his Master. If you walk around always gloomy or pre-occupied, the slave will take that to heart. Remember, slave's operate a LOT through intuition. Not saying that a slave's intuition may be off kilter about something, but the longer a slave is with his Master the better the slave's intuition will become. The slave will know every time you fart. But a slave's focus is specifically on his Master and serving his Master in any way that it can. You have to let it! Let your slave be a slave. Of course it will take some time for you to trust a new slave, but you will suffer if you do not allow your slave to be a slave. You have to trust the slave. If you do not trust the slave with something you think only you can do then the slave will never feel solid in his service to you. Sometimes you have to bend a little even if the slave actually does not do as good a job at something that you think you do...then teach it how you want it done until it gets done in the same way you do it. Do not deprive your slave of the things it lives for otherwise you will have an unhappy slave that will become lazy and you will lose the slaves respect. When a Master loses a slaves respect becuase of something the Master does not do and should but then asks the slave to take responsibility for the lack of respect then the Master deserves what he gets. How you see Your slave Be prepared...perception is not always reality. You cannot treat many slaves (especially the true ones) like you treat other people. Throw away the book of common relationships. The Master-slave relationship is no where near them and does not contain ANY of the rules you might apply to regular relationships. The slave is not your boyfriend or your partner, if they are then they are merely submissive males. A true slave is property, period. Yes it has an ego and it has emotions, but it strives to live in a detached state from those things. You absolutely cannot treat a true slave the way you would treat an average individual. This does not mean that you, as a Master, cannot come to love a slave, of course you can but, that love is different. It is similar to loving your truck or your whatever. It is a thing. Again, I am only talking about true slaves, not merely submissive men. I am talking about the slave that becomes a piece of the Master. When a slave is not focused on something or anything its mind will wander. Remember it is still a human body with all the emotional-chemical reactions that we all have however, a slave does not see those things as other poeple do. Remember this very important point: A slave sees itself through a Masters eyes only. Do not think that the slave has some concept about what it is to his Master. A slave may have some ideas about it but a true slave (and the more true the more intense) sees itself through the eyes of the Master. I want to clarify something here. I am not saying that a slave wants to live its life in some drudgery, day after day and loves being miserable. A slave does not want to fell emotional pain. It wants to feel the pleasure of challenge, the pleasure of a different kind of pain and not physical pain just for the sake of feeling pain. Sure, some slaves want physical pain, but that is not what I am talking about. Some slaves need to feel the unease of working for a Master. It is not exactly emotional pain, becuase that is not what a slave needs. A slave does not want to feel special; it does not want to feel that its Master does something just for the slave. For instance: A slave does not want to see that a Master is making a decision solely for the slaves benefit. For instance you may return a favor to someone by giving that person a compliment or buying something for that person. A slave's reward is to know and feel that it is useful to its Master. Not that a slave wants to be the center of a Master's life, that is not it either. A true slave will blossom when it is not treated like everyone else. Meaning it is expected to perform a certain way and do certain things in a manner that is pleasing to its Master. If a slave does something the Master appreciates then so be it. The slave is not looking for a compliment and if it is it is not a true slave. it will intuitively know that the Master is pleased without the Master saying a word. Period. If you think of it in terms of a dog. You throw a stick and the dog runs as fat as it can and gets the stick and brings it back. You can do this over and over again and even thought the dog gets tired it will still go and getch the stick and come back waggging its tail in happiness. slaves are like that. You do not give the slave any outwards sign of approval or special notice...it already knows that's what its purpose is and will keep doing what you ask over and over again becuase it is being used as it is supposed to be, no special recognition, no pats on the back, no compliments. A true slave is the oppoosite of other people. It does not wnat to hear about how much you appreciate it...let it be a slave. Period. Be Consistent - Be Specific Let's say you give your slave some tasks to do. Okay, you are busy and you don't notice that something needs to be done. Well, do not just let it slide. If you are busy and your slave sees something that needs to be done, then tell the slave that if it sees something that needs to be done to come to you and give it the opportunity to know whether or not something is important enough to be done right then and there or not. With some slaves you have to keep a tight reign on them or they drift. If you have given your slave some tasks to do and you have nothing more for it to do then tell it to do something constructive on its own. Do not just let your slave drift here and there with nothing to do. There is always something that you can find for your slave to do, I gaurantee it even if you tell the slave to wash the floor and it does not need to be washed, wash it again. Do not make the mistake of wasting your slave's time. I am not suggesting that the slave's time is not your time, I am not. You own the slave so its time is your time. But, if you do not specifically give the slave some direction it will feel lost becuase it does not feel comfortable having time enough to make its own decisions. It will feel weird and lost and begin to drift. Use your slave. If you are busy and have trouble figuring out things for your slave to do then take time before bed or at some point during your day and think of some things that need to be done and under no circumstance should you hold back from allowing your slave to do something that you think you can do better. How will the slave ever learn to do things according to your specifications or likes if you never give it the chance? Remember a slave wants to know that you are paying attention. So be consistent. Do not accept something a slave does well one time and then does not do a great job the next time. Call the slave on it and discipline it. That is what the slave wants. It will get bored just sitting around waiting for you to have time to think of something for the slave to do. If a slave sits around bored then its mind will put its energy somewhere else...it will drift mentally and it will not feel secure. It wants to be used. Remember that becuase it is very important. These are things that a Master must be prepared to think about and do otherwise you may find your slave wandering right into the ownership of another Master. You will lose your slave form disuse. Trust Me it will happen. Being consistent also means that your discipline or enforcement is clear. If a slave has no clue why it is being disciplined you will just confuse it and make it feel saddened becuase it will take it to heart that it has displeased his Master in some way. And above all, DO NOT WAIT to discipline your slave when you get angry. You may need to take out your frustration or anger on something and that is fine, just be sure to tell your slvae that it is needed to get rid of your anger or frsutration. The slave will happily comply to get a paddling or a flogging for its Master, as long as the slave knows and understands what the paddling or flogging is for. If the slave feels it has no purpose you will lose it. Setting Good Protocols and Why While every Master expects a slave to conform to certain standard protocols each Master will have their own. A Master may not give much attention to His protocols but He should becuase they are the lifeblood of the slave. Protocols let the slave know who his Master is. Protocols also provide a slave with self-regulation. While a Master generally regulates just about everything a slave does He can become slack on His protocols and this will not help the slave at all. Providing a slave with good, challenging and specific protocols will help to keep the slave focused, especially if You are the slaves first Master. At first protocols may be sort of hit or miss, meaning that the Master has to figure out what things He wants to include in His protocols. The slave is not going to know by magic or by osmosis. You have to tell the slave what they are and when you do you have to follow up with the protocols to insure that the slave is doing as it is told and in a manner that is acceptable to You. If you only notice things sometimes and not others then the slave will not be certain about what is and is not a protocol. Even if you write the protocol down the slave has to know that You intend on keeping it on its toes. Remember a slave wants to please. If you happen to have a pup/slave as I do then it is even more important becuase the pup/slave IS like a real dog in that sense, they want to please even more. This does not mean it wants you to lavish it with praise, it doesn't it just wants to know that You care enough to make sure it has done what you want it to do. Love and Your slave It happens more than you might think, a Master falls in love with His slave. I mean the kind of heartfelt love like one loves a partner. The dnager in this is when the slave does not fall in love with the Master. Certainly a Master can come to love His slave like an object, which is preferable to most slaves. An anology would be something like a Master might really like his car or truck. He might depend on that truck, maybe for work. Well, a Master can come to depend on a slave and love it like any of His other possessions. That is acceptable. But most slaves will feel very uncomfortable if their Master falls in love with them in any other way but as an object for use. This is a fine line that a Master must guard against if he wants to keep the slave. Believe it or not there are some slaves that do not want love. Really, because that sort of feeling is not in their bones. They are objects and to tell a slave you love it as a person, well you will twek its brain and flip it out (these are technical terms by-the-way). Many slaves, especially the true ones, think of themselves as merely an extension of the Master. That is where the Master should keep it. Of course it is not that easy. If a Master comes to love His slave in any other way but to use it as a tresured object He may find that the slave will not respond well to this. Maybe the slave will respond to it and things will be alright as long as it is discussed and agreed upon. Most true slaves that I have encountered do not want the responsibility of having a love-relationship because they do not see themselves in that way. In many ways a Master must guard against such events. Many slaves that see themselves as objects for use by the Master will not understand it if the Master begins to treat them differently than before. Telling The Truth Sometimes admittedly this has been a difficult one for Me. Everyone knows that everyone tells little white lies. Sometimes those lies are intended to protect another person, maybe even your slave. But here's the rub. If you tell a little white lie, regardless if it is done with good intentions to protect your slave from something, and the slave discovers the truth and knows you lied, well...then what? The slave may not realize that you lied for its protection or that you thought, at the time, that it was the best thing to do. We often get ourselves into these little gray areas. So what does a Master do. I beleive that the reason most Masters may lie to their slaves about something is becuase of thier egos. How so, you ask. Well, here you are a Master and you are supposed to be the pillar of wisdom, strength and understanding for your slave, right. So you couldn't possibly do or say anything to make yourself look less than wise or less than strong. Forget it!!! Tell the truth no matter what the slave's reaction is. Why? Well for one you will avoid ever being caught in a lie evn if it is a small one. Secondly, the slave is not a baby and hopefully it is mature enoough to understand that Masters are not infallible. So, let the slave deal with the truth. At the very least the slave will know that you can be counted on to tell the truth, even if it is difficult. YOur slave will come to respect you more telling the truth even if the truth is hard to swallow. Just stick your dick in its mouth...it will be fine (just kidding...mmmmaybe not). © Master Rick, Reno, Nevada 2011 |